There is a strong need in our society to have everything defined without any ambiguity. However, it is not always easy to come up with unquestionable definitions. There are some things that are neither hot nor cold. They may be 'warm'. These things are hard to accept in many instances, but accept them we must.


I haven't been able to come up with an unquestionable reason for the dramatic increase in 'relationship issues/problem' that has occured among my friends within the past few weeks, but I am hypothesizing that the problem is a 'lack of clear or adequate communication'. You know things are bad when even your best friend fails to understand what you are saying. They should, it's part of their job description! I've been trying to explain to my friends what I want in a relationship at this point in my life and no one seemed to understand what I was saying until today. FINALLY !!! *sigh of relief* I think I had been doing a really bad job at explaining myself because all I've been saying for the past month is that I want a 'friend with benefits'. Pick your jaw up off the floor... not that kind of benefits. There will be no sex involved. My friends and I just realized that is what we have all been trying to explain to each other and the men around us.

A 'friend with benefits' relationship falls into the category of 'hard to explain'. It has many different meanings. It can be made in whatever your heart desires.

My girls and I did the best to explain what a 'friends with benefits' relationship meant to us. This is what we came up with:

1. we are not completely single but at the same time we are not in a relationship... we are somewhere in the middle.

2. we have someone to chill with, hug and kiss whenever the need arise. (NOTE: physical contact is limited to hugs and kisses)

3. the relationship has the potential to develop into something more but this should NOT be the intent in the beginning of the relationship as it would be perfectly legal for it to stay in the same place for a greatly extended period and be terminated without penalty if either party decides to get serious with someone else.

***Soundtrack***

Buddy - Musiq Soulchild

Dick-less men

Friends are like stars

They come and go

But the ones that stay

Are the ones that glow.

I love my friends!!! They are some of THE COOLEST people on the planet!!! Some of the craziest people too.


So I was on the phone with one of said crazy friends and as usual we got to the topic of men, here's a part of the convo...


Friend: You know how in the beginning of the relationships you tell a guy you dont plan on having sex with them and they say they have no problem with it?


Me: yeh! such liars! they dont mean it!!!


Friend: I know. I wish they didn't have dicks! Dicks always ruin my relationships because they want to do things dicks like. I wish when I met someone they didnt have a dick or it should be small, like a baby carrot, then it woulld grow slowly til we get married and then it would be big, fully functional and ready to work!!!


Me: (laughing out loud) OMG!!! That is hilarious!!! But you know what... you have a point! That would be awesome!!! It would make life so much easier.



It would be very nice to find a dick-less man because then he's not supposed to feel the need to have sex (I know this is scientifically wrong but who cares) which take A LOT of pressure off the relationship but at the same time that would be very scary!!! I would definitely run if I were to found out a prospective hubby was dick-less!!! I wouldn't believe a story that the baby carrot had the potential to grow into bigger and better things either!!!

Something to smile about...

Love is falling asleep dreaming of the one that makes you smile. Love is waking up smiling about the one you dream of.
~ Anonymous

"It is a curious thought, but it is only when you see people looking ridiculous that you realize just how much you love them."
~ Agatha Christie

"The best feelings are those that Have no words to describe them...."
~ Michelle Hammersley

" Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. "
~ Bible

Sometimes I miss you so much,
I just want to rip you out of my dreams and hug you!

Far in distance,
but near at heart,
you'll always be the angel of my heart.

I may not get to see you as often as I like.
I may not get to hold you in my arms all through the night.
But deep in my heart I truly know,
you're the one that I love,
and I can't let you go.

"Somewhere there is someone that dreams of your smile,
and finds in your presence that life is worthwhile,
so when you are lonely remember it’s true,
someone somewhere is thinking of you."
Unknown

When love feels like magic,
you call it destiny.
When destiny has a sense of humor,
you call it serendipity.
~ Serendipity

Missing someone is your heart's way of reminding you that you love them.

If I had to choose between loving you and breathing ....
I would use my last breath to tell you
I LOVE YOU

CHANGEZ (I have put my records on)

The leaves on the trees have changed their colours; from green to yellow, orange, pink or purple.The weather has changed from being warm to cool to freezing cold! Americans have elected their first black president. And... I have exited my comfort zone once again and I have NO intentions of going back. Things are looking good on the outside.

I have blogged about stepping out so many times and within days I would run back into my little box and cover my face too afraid that something bad might happen if I even look out. So this time I'm not going to say that I'm never going to go back. I'm just saying that I don't plan on it.

Scothie you'd be so proud of me! Your squirrel is letting her hair down :-D


Sountrack:

1. Unwritten - Natasha Beddingfield
2. Put your records on - Corrine Bailey Rae
3. Here I am - Jasmine Richards
4. This is me - Demi Lavato
5. Taking chances - Celine Dion

TOTALLLY AWESOME WEEK!!! (the happy post)

Sunday....

• the weather was sooooo nice! after having a very cold week God sent us some sunshine and warmth. my bro and i went for a walk and took pics and crazy videos. was so much fun :-)

Monday....

• Got to see il mio amico carino ed adorabile (my cute and adorable friend... who i will refer to as carino hereafter).

• 1st class was so cool. the professor is absolutely hilarious. she was telling us about how back in the day... long long b4 we were around, the men used to write letters to the women they wanted to be with... and the ladies could tell how much they guys really liked them by the way they closed their letters. if the guy was stuck on 'truly yours' the women were advised to find another man. LOL:-D however, if the guy signed the letter 'truly yours today,always and forever' then he was in looooooooove!!! :-)

• 2nd class... quiz --> bye bye :-D

Tuesday...

• Two horrible exams.

Wednesday...

• NO SCHOOL!!!

Thursday...

• pretty cool lab... got a few winks from the hott TA ;-)

• HALLOWEEN PARTY!!! so... boring old me decided to go to the halloween party with my friends. we didnt dress up cuz we r too cool for that.LOL. but we had lots of fun. I took a shot and wanted a couple more but I had to drive home and my friends weren't drinking so i didnt... good peer pressure :-) plus good girls like me dont drink to get drunk!(everything in moderation) oh yeh and carino was disappointed i drank... :-( . the costumes at the party were pretty cool, although i didnt know wat some ppl were. secret... shhhh... i saw this one dude, i coulda sworn he was dressed up but the poor thing wasnt! i felt so bad afterwards. im still begging God for forgiveness.

• Got pulled over for speeding!60 in a 35 mph zone... (60 is slow for me too. stupid speed limits!!!) but thanks to my clean driving record and the fact that i wasnt drinking that nite ;-) the very sweet cop let me off. God even takes care of his delinquent children.

Friday...

• ANOTHER HALLOWEEN PARTY!!! the professors in my department are so cool man... most of them were dressed up. there was a witch, M&M's, a goddess and a zombie looking woman. the student costumes were nice too. we got goodie bags with lots of candy and other stuff.... yes i attend a UNIVERSITY... a very prestigious one too!!! but our program is so much like high school (except for our actual course work) but im not complaining, being grown up gets boring sometimes.

Saturday...

• Sabbath was great as usual.

• Went to a dinner with my family... had some good Jamaican food!Curry goat and rice and peas.. fried plantains...potato salad... carrot cake...(list is kinda long...think i'll stop here... still full... *sigh*)

So yeh... had a truly great week. Love my new friends thissssssssssssssss much!!! you guys are SOOOOO much fun to hang out with!!! :-)